Practical Marriage Prep Information
Canon Law (which is the law of the Catholic Church) is complex regarding marriage. Each couple wishing to marry will review their particular situation with a member of the parish staff to determine their freedom to marry. In general, however, to be married in the Catholic Church, the following must be true:
• At least one member of the couple must be a baptized Catholic person.
• If either or both members of the couple have been previously married, every previous marriage on the part of either party (regardless of whether that occurred within or without the church) must be resolved by either a declaration of nullity (an annulment) or a Petition in a Lack of Form Marriage or the death of the former spouse. If you have any questions regarding the status of your previous marriage, please contact the pastor. This is also true for non-Catholic persons. If any prior marriages have already been declared null, the declarations of nullity must be provided.
• At a meeting with a member of the parish pastoral staff, the couple completes a pre-marriage inventory. A pre-marriage inventory is a series of statements about various elements of the couples relationship (such as communication, marriage expectations, finances, family and friends, sexuality, children, etc.). Independently, the couple responds by agreeing or disagreeing with the statements and their responses are then collated. There is a fee for processing the pre-marriage inventory that is payable to the company that does the inventory.
• The couple meets (typically two to four times) with another couple from the parish, trained in the use of the inventory, who will review with them the results of the inventory. The goal, of course, is to help the couple strengthen their relationship, identify potential areas for growth, and prepare for married life.
• A couple may wish to participate in an Engaged Encounter, a weekend experience for couples. Engaged Encounter is an optional but suggested experience. The parish staff can provide more information.
Time Line for Marriage Preparation
Since each couple is unique and each marriage celebration has its own characteristics, this time line is offered only as a general guide to planning your wedding at Saint Joseph Parish.
1 to 2 Years in Advance